The Synagogue: Hellish Prison or God’s House??

I go to synagogue and temple a lot, to many different ones, sometimes hoping to do some matchmaking! But I mainly go because I have always liked Jewish services. All of them. Reform, conservative, and orthodox. I feel cozy and safe, like I am in God’s house!

A big difference between me and most Jewish people is that I get it. Praying is a tremendous joy and comfort for me, and one of the most important things you can do.

I know that religious services are boring as hell for most Jews and meaningless, prison-like. And that is the biggest reason most people avoid it. It is not boring for me, because I get it. It is not foreign to me but it is foreign to most Jews.

Many Christians get it, in part because their prayers are in English, they sense a deep spiritual connection, and an hour a week is easier to take than our three-hour Saturday morning Shabbat services, four-hour Holy Day services, 1½ hour Friday night Shabbat services, and daily morning and evening services.

Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are coming and a lot of people will show up for that. Because you are afraid something bad will happen if you don’t? Or because you think two days covers you for the entire year?

It is really important to pray every day, all year, to thank God for every big and little thing we have, to always have gratitude, and to ask for help. You can pray in English (although there is real power in original Hebrew prayers which connect us with our ancestors)! And it does not have to be in synagogue or temple (although there is definite power in community prayer). I feel like I’m in God’s house when I am in the synagogue, but when I am outside, I’m in God’s universe!

If you want a great relationship and it is not happening for you, asking for big help is important. I cannot manufacture a partner for you. There is only one Manufacturer. Keep asking God to help you work on getting where you want to be. Ask every day, not just on Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur.

We must uphold our end of the bargain: become more loving, caring, giving, kind, and sensitive, and less judgmental and slower to criticize others. These are things we must work on always~that is key.

Even if you don’t relate to God as Avinu Malkeinu, our Father our King, it is worth asking because God is the ULTIMATE MATCHMAKER!

Wishing you success in finding your relationship in the New Year 5777!

Who is Paula?
Sparks Matchmaking strives to connect Jewish individuals for the purpose of dating, marriage, and Jewish continuity.  So far, 18 couples are married~with a 0% divorce rate and 14 Jewish children from those marriages. Eight additional couples are happily dating or in long-term relationships.

1 Comment

  1. Paula that was a beautiful article! Thanks for sharing your thoughts..best wishes for a Happy and healthy New year.

    Gayle Dorshow

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