Rosh HaShanah~Time For A New Relationship!

SPARK YOUR MATCH: Dating Issues for Our Millennium
By Paula Sparks
Sparks Matchmaking

Rosh HaShanah: Time For A New Relationship~

The High Holidays are coming and I am always happy to see throngs of Jews swarming into temples and synagogues on Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur. After Yom Kippur, however, I am dismayed when most people vanish until the following year.

The High Holidays are referred to as Yomin Noraim, Days of Awe, which also translates as Days of Fear. Are we frightened into coming to temple???? If we skip it will something bad happen to us? Do we need to pray just once a year to cover the entire year ahead? We learned long ago that “on Rosh Hashanah it is written and on Yom Kippur it is sealed.” So we seem to believe something is happening beyond what we can see. Something meta.

Millions of people participate in 12-step programs, in which a main element is a Higher Power.

If you’d like to meet your soul mate this new year, try going to temple a few more times throughout the year. Some very nice people go to the musical Friday night service and for yartzeits. In fact, I introduced a couple a few months ago at synagogue and they are now very happily going to synagogue together, as well as other things! That’s not exactly the point of this article though.

God has big ears and a bigger heart. But he is like your mother: He wants to hear from you more than once a year! He wants to know how you’re doing all of the time. He wants to be a big part of your life, to help you figure out how to meet someone. If you have not formed an adult relationship with God, this would be a fine time.

A lot of people are looking to make big changes around the new year but they can’t figure out how. Keep trying to reach your goals and report to God and ask for help to get where you want to be, not just on Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur. How about on Shavuot? Purim. Sukkot. Every week on Shabbat. Check in every day because our Jewish spiritual heritage reminds us to be grateful for kindness and goodness we receive. With humility, we extend that kindness to others.

We must improve our social skills and make a greater effort to meet people. May our prayers lead us to be kinder and gentler to everyone, to nurture our softer and sweeter side with those we would like to develop a relationship, striving to bring out the best in each other.

Even if you are not sure that God is Avinu Malkeinu, our Father our King, it is worth asking for help because God is the ULTIMATE MATCHMAKER!

Wishing you success in finding your relationship in 5778!

Who is Paula?
Sparks Matchmaking strives to connect Jewish individuals for the purpose of companionship, marriage, and continuity.  So far, 19 couples are married and 11 couples are happily dating or in long-term relationships.

1 Comment

  1. Louise Zimerman

    I need to find some help for my daughter. She is 23 and was recently engaged. Found out the marine she was waiting for was a cereal cheater and user. Now she is on dating websites but is completely lost. She is recent graduate and is now going back to school to start up a paralegal career. She needs to find places to meet young singles and people to go out and have a social life and find a match for life. Not hookups or jerks anymore.

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