For Women Only~One Man’s Perspective

SPARK YOUR MATCH:  Dating Issues for Our Millennium By Paula Sparks Sparks Matchmaking FOR WOMEN ONLY: A Man’s Point of View Hello, nice women! There actually are a lot of men out there, but you don’t want most of them, you have informed me. A lot of them have never been married. A lot don’t have height, manners, income level, education level, good looks, personality, or profession. So you want one of the “desirable” ones? Let’s take heed! Many men have voiced it, but this man has put some of it in writing: “I have some observations from the MALE perspective! Many men agree that WOMEN could improve their dating behavior to increase the chances of leading to a meaningful and mutually satisfying relationship. These are things Jewish women need to hear, but it will REALLY piss them off! WHAT TO WEAR? Fuss a little even for a simple get-acquainted coffee meeting. Wear something nice, even if casual.  Wear some make up and jewelry, though no need to go over the top. The man should fuss as well. But I have been to many such meetings where the woman wore ZERO make up or jewelry and dressed like she was getting ready to clean the house! If you are going to bother to meet a man, at least look like you give a damn! Otherwise it is a major and easily avoidable turnoff. WHERE SHALL WE GO? If a man invites you for a first real date and going to dinner at a restaurant is on the agenda, if he makes any reasonable suggestion as to the place, be polite and accept that location. If it is a moderate place, do NOT blow it off, lobbying for a much more expensive place, with the assumption that the man is picking up the check.  This is NOT about the money! It is about showing that you are a quality woman, more interested in getting to know this man than snagging an expensive dinner.  Save those fancy places for subsequent anniversaries and special occasions! MENSCH OR JAP? If you are on your first dinner date, especially at an expensive restaurant, do NOT order the most expensive item on the menu!  Since for whatever reason, the man is expecting and expected to pick up the check, it is a major turn off, signifying selfishness or bad manners to order the most expensive items or wine. That has happened to me a few times and ticked me off! AGAIN It is NOT about the money!  It is about showing the man he is out with a MENSCH and not a JAP! THERE ARE TWO OF US HERE, RIGHT? On a first date, do NOT talk about yourself to the exclusion of all else.  Ask about him. Give the impression you are interested. This is about conveying to a man that you are giving by nature, a very attractive trait to men. Selfishness is a turnoff to BOTH genders. TOO MUCH INFORMATION? On the first date, do NOT tell him all your troubles.  We all have them, but he does not want to hear all about them at this stage.  If you become a couple, there is plenty of time to work together to help each other, as it should be. I once had...

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Top 8 Reasons to Date a JGuy this Hanukkah

As you know, Hanukkah begins this Saturday, Dec. 8. To kick off these eight crazy nights, the team at JDate.com, the leading online Jewish singles community, would like to give a special shout-out to Jewish men. Below is a list of JDate’s top eight reasons to date a “JGuy.” He loves his mama: JMoms play a huge influence in their kids’ lives. That cute Jew you’re eyeing was most likely raised with a strong mother and, as a result, will be more respectful of the other women in his life. The amazing food: Jewish cuisine has evolved to include flavors from all over the world, but still maintains its delicious traditions. Whether or not he keeps totally kosher, you’ll be noshing on some great foods ranging from challah bread to holiday latkes. He’s smart: Education is highly valued in the Jewish community, so odds are that he’s got at least a college degree. But being educated isn’t just about the paper – the drive to learn extends to the rest of his life as well. You’re in good company: Whether you’re into politics, music, literature, economics or anything creative, there have been some highly influential cultural players who are Jewish. The list includes Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg, crooner Adam Levine, cutie Joseph Gordon-Levitt, House Majority Leader Eric Cantor, as well as dozens of Nobel Prize winners and three of the current Supreme Court Justices. He’s a Mensch: JGuys have it in their blood to help others and give back to the community. Whether you want to volunteer at a local homeless shelter, clean up your local park or foster a pet, he’ll gladly join in right by your side. The new vocab: You’ll learn so many fun Yiddish expressions that you’ll be able to kibitz and schmooze with even the best yenta! He’ll keep you laughing: Whether you’re a fan of the boisterous jokers like Seth Rogen, love endless impressions from Adam Sandler, or want topical humor like that of Comedy Central Host Jon Stewart, there is truly no shortage of funny Jews. You get to celebrate for eight nights: As the world knows, the celebration of Hanukkah lasts for eight nights. But it’s not just the Festival of Lights that’ you’ll be observing with your JGuy – the Three Pilgrimage Festivals in the spring and High Holidays in the fall are additional meaningful opportunities to gather with family, friends and community...

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